We are fallen people living in a fallen world.   Although we are created in our Maker's image, through original and personal sin, that perfect image has been fractured and broken.   God offers restoration through Jesus, yet we continue to stand in need of restoration and redemption.  This is the meaning of "total depravity" as mentioned by theologians - - that every area and portion of our human life is affected by sin.   Not, however, that there is no good within us, for the image of God is still present within us by God's amazing grace and gifting.   But every aspect, every category of our life and living is scarred and negatively affected by sin.    So, too, in our interpersonal relationships, even (possibly especially) with those whom we care for and love the most, our fickle and imperfect love shows through.   Our love is limited at best; perverted at worst.